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Dear You,

We were talking about careers in journalism in my Mass Media class and this question was posed: “Do we really need journalists anymore since anyone can write ‘news’ on the Internet?”

I guess that would depend on your definition of news and your ability to decipher credible information from an eccentric rant. Now more than ever it is crucial for journalists to recognize and live up to the responsibility they have as conduits of truth for the public. The average Joe Schmoe’t going to know how to correctly interview subjects, properly use AP style, site appropriately or distinguish between hard news and editorializing. As great as citizen journalism is, I think it’s important that professionals do their job.

As we get more and more dependent on online journalism for it’s ease of access, I think that there is something about having an actual newspaper in hand that people won’t easily let go of. The world is becoming digitized, and I think people will want to hold on to the age-old custom  of reading a paper, not a computer screen, to get news.

There’s something to say for online journalism, don’t get me wrong. It’s amazing, convenient and useful to have the most up-to-date information at your fingertips, but there will always be room for print and a NEED for real journalists.

Don’t start excavating yet!



Dear You,

Somewhere it says that men are supposed to seek after women. I think that’s why guys ask girls out on dates, and why guys ask girls for their numbers – not the other way around. It’s funny to hear women saying that they’re looking for the “man of their dreams,” when really, we, as women, are not supposed to be looking anywhere. If we’re not in the right spot when our guy is looking for us, then we’re going to miss out and be “Boo-less” (without a Boo).

In my own life, anytime I went looking for love, I never found it. Instead, I almost always got my heart broken or ended up doing something I had no business doing. It was only when I was still that he came to me.  Notice I said, “he came to me.” I wasn’t looking; he was. It started out completely platonic. I actually had no interest in him whatsoever, but he had seen from a distance the intentions of my heart, (and by that, I mean that he saw me just being me) and he pursued me.

I really think God has a sense of humor, because in our situation, God used my fiance to witness to someone who hurt me, relieve anger from my heart and introduce us to each other – all in about a week. And while the situation was far less than ideal, He was conditioning me for my husband, and conditioning my husband for me.

The things we go through in life all have relevance, and they will all come back to us at some point in time. Mistakes that I’ve made in the past are bright red stop signs for me now. Do I have a few bruises? Yes. Would I make the same mistake again? No, but I also don’t regret some of the places I’ve been.  Why? Because without those things of the past, I wouldn’t be where I am now.

Don’t get me wrong, the past does come up and does hurt in our relationship sometimes, but without our pasts we wouldn’t have a FUTURE with each other.

It doesn’t always seem like God’s plan is our plan, and it isn’t always fun being on the path that He puts us on. But you are where you are for a reason. You just might not find out why for a while, and when you do, you might not like the reason why. But it is all intentional. Trust Him.

If you are where He planned for you to be, things will happen according to HIS plan – not yours. Sit tight, ladies, your Forever-Friend will find you. Patience is a virtue!

Places, everyone!


Dear You,

In relationships, patience is a virtue, honesty is a requirement and love is the cherry on top. I’m not the most patient person ever, but I am honest and blessed to be loved.

I can be proud, stubborn as hell and down-right rude at times, as we all can, but I’ve been learning a few tough lessons these days, which until now no one’s ever cared enough to teach me, or I’ve been too hard-headed to learn.

Arguing never gets anyone anywhere, and sometimes, it’s just not worth it to prove a point. I really had to do a double take when I got this text earlier today after a disagreement. It read, “Sometimes/all the times in a working relationship there comes a time when one of the parties has to learn to take the high road and realize that the best thing to say or do is not to prove a point, but to simply apologize and learn to become even more patient. I never want to hold any grudges or hurt feelings toward you…I am sorry.”

Yes, I felt about as big as an ant when I read this, but it’s true. Take the higher road, even when it’s hard – especially when it’s hard. Think of the situation, the person you’re hurting and the big picture. Is it really that serious? Probably not.

Love keeps no record of wrong.



Dear You,

What a week!

Monday – No School: MLK Day
Tuesday – Inauguration Day/Day 1 of Career Showcase.
Wednesday –  Day 2 of Career Showcase.

I am tired! I spent all of today and yesterday getting ready for Career Showcase, which is a huge two-day career fair on our campus. I updated my resume, made about 20 copies and read up on the companies attending.

Keep in mind – I had to work this event, too. I am a public relations specialist at the Career Resource Center, which hosts the event, and I was shocked and appalled by some of the things I witnessed these past two days.

Yes, I know, it was freezing outside, which can drastically affect wardrobe choices, but it’s all about layering! Jeans are not OK in a professional setting no matter how cold it is outside.

I am confused. The last I knew, business casual meant modest slacks or skirts, button-down, no-cleavage tops and closed-toe shoes for ladies; and button-down shirts, ties, belts and slacks for guys. I don’t know, it might just be me, but jeans are nowhere in that list!

I thought that most students go to career fairs to network and potentially interview – I could be wrong, though. I mean, the recruiters do have the keys to potential jobs, few as they may be. And yes, people, it was cold, which means that we should be wearing MORE CLOTHES, right? I am just saying that less does not equal more.

Note to selves:

  1. DO research the definition of business casual.
  2. DON’T have social hour with your friends while others are genuinely trying to network and get a job.
  3. DO make copies of your resume before meeting with potential employers.
  4. DO know what you wrote on your resume and be prepared to talk about it.
  5. DO update your resume and make sure that it has your most up-to-date GPA, major and expected graduation date.
  6. DO find out something about the organization/company you want to work for and the representatives it sends to recruit.
  7. DO ask for a business card after speaking with an employer and follow up with them about your status. I mean, you do want the job, right?
  8. DO know which organizations are actually at the career fair.
  9. DO think of your skill sets and know how to market yourself in under 60 seconds.
  10. DON’T wear heels you can’t walk in. Not cute.

Read it. Think about it. Implement it.



Dear You,

As of yesterday, there’s been a HUGE change in America. We’ve got a new president,  and while we might not all agree with his policies, appointments or personal agenda, he is our Commander in Chief, our leader, “the man.”

President Barack Obama has brought hope, life and a new era to people all over the world. He’s an inspiration to some young people and a sight for the sore eyes of some of the “older.”

 I can’t help but be inspired. How great is it to mean so much to so many people? How much of a responsibility is it to be “Change in America?”

I can’t say I envy our President, but I can say that I am moved to bring about change in my own life. It’s not about how many people you think you influence, or the difference that others see you making. It’s about the intentions of your heart and your willingness to give that are important.

In reality, you don’t have to give, say or intentionally do anything. It could just be your demeanor, your steadfast diligence, your dedication to the truth, your willingness to do the right thing if only because it’s right…

I’ve learned that you can’t “fake it ’til you make it,” and still stay true to yourself. Sometimes you have to step out on a limb, your own limb, all by yourself and take time to examine all that’s going on in and around you. Take time to find out what you believe in and what you will and won’t stand for. Prioritize your life.

We’ve got a new president, and some big changes have and are about to be made. Now’s as good a time as any to clean out your closet and make some changes of you own. It will take some time, and it might hurt, but it will be worth it.

Try it. You might like it.


Dear You,

I wanted to start writing to provide encouragement and information for young people, especially young women. I’m writing about everyday issues – school, relationships, job searching – the things that I go through and observe every day.

These are letters that I’m writing, my notes, thoughts, frustrations, recommendations, ideas.

You’ll see the title of this blog and the signature of each post is MissFits. Why? I’m a young Miss wearing the shoe that Fits.  It’s taken a while for me to get comfortable, but I think I’ve finally found my groove.

Read and enjoy.


The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE and WHOSE WE ARE.

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